Sunday, September 8, 2024

“I Worried My Friends Will Think I'm Attention-Seeking If I Come Out As Bi”

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One of the most universal, most useful pieces of advice I've ever been given is: when you're worrying what other people think of you, remember how rarely they think about you at all. Which can feel disturbing, sometimes, can't it? The realisation that everybody is locked into their own rented neuroses, all of our tired egos dragging us eternally between gritty little desires and anxieties, that all eyes are focused inwards, rather than out at friends' sexual preferences, humiliations or hair-dos. It's a truth both lonely and liberating, and, in your case, deeply relevant.

And, you ask, can you say you're bi if you've never had sex with a girl? Of course you can, silly! People routinely say they're straight before they've had sex with anybody, don't they; it's not about what you do, it's about what you feel. As soon as you've externalised this feeling, it will no doubt be infinitely easier for you to explore Hinge or Her or that funny little bar you pass on the way home from work, and then, see what happens next. Good luck.

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